School bells or wedding bells?

Imagine marrying someone you know from high school. This may sound terrifying, especially if you are one of those people who can barely manage a class period with another classmate – let alone a lifetime. Additionally, there seems to be skepticism about marrying someone who you met in school. How would you know that they are “the one” if you have never been with anyone else? Wouldn’t you get bored after knowing the same person for so long? Would you ever wonder what else was out there?

Zack Atlas (12) and Jamila Adams (12) Photo by Jamila Adams
Zack Atlas (12) and Jamila Adams (12) Photo by Jamila Adams
Photo by Hayden Reeves
Bryce Yoder (11) and Hayden Reeves (11) Photo by Hayden Reeves

Despite this, there are many benefits to marrying your high school sweetheart. For one, you have known this person for so long that you are already in sync with them. You probably have a lot of similar interests already, since people in high school tend to hang out with people who are into the same things that they are.

Also, they’ve known you for basically your entire high school career which is when you make your most embarrassing, cringe-worthy memories – and they are still there for you. Mrs. Rogers, a middle school social studies teacher, was able to enjoy the benefits of falling for her high school sweetheart and shares her experience of meeting her future husband here at SAS.

Eye: How and when did you and your husband meet?

Mrs. Rogers: We met at SAS! We had lockers next to each other (his last name is “Rogers” and my maiden name is “Rameker”)  and we played a lot of the same sports, so we shared a lot of the same field space and IASAS experiences too.

Eye: Did you and him ever talk about getting married in high school?

Mrs. Rogers: No way! We had too much going on to be distracted by talk like that! Both sets of our parents were much too traditional to tolerate any kind of talk like that when we “kids” anyway.

Eye: How did others react to you marrying your high school sweetheart?

Mrs. Rogers: Everyone was very supportive. We had dated for over a decade; our parents and siblings were all good friends because we grew up together– it was time. It’s a real gift and blessing in our marriage that our families are so close.

Photo by Vicki Rogers
Photo by Vicki Rogers

Eye: What happened after you two both graduated high school and went to different colleges? Or did you go to the same college?

Mrs. Rogers: We went to different colleges across the country from each other. Interestingly, we never talked about transferring. I guess we respected each other’s personal journey at that stage in our lives. We worked hard to make sure we saw each other as much as we could. Remember, this was the day before Skype or Facebook. So most of our communication was through the phone, letters and cards in the mail– and this fancy new technology of the time called email!

Eye: How long have you and your husband been together?

Mrs. Rogers: We’ve been together for over 20 years and married half that time. It’s the greatest blessing in my life next to our son, Kasey.

What do today’s high school students think about the idea of marrying their boyfriend or girlfriend? I interviewed two current SAS couples – Hayden Reeves and Bryce Yoder, and Jamila Adams and Zack Atlas – about their thoughts on getting married.

Author: Namrata Ray

This is Namrata’s second year on the Eye! Currently a senior, she’s better known as Nimi and is originally from Dallas, Texas. This is her fourth year at SAS and in Singapore. She enjoys playing tennis and eating chocolate lava cakes. Namrata can be contacted at ray45882@sas.edu.sg.

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